Family Vision After Divorce: How to Create Stability, Security, and Connection
Family vision after divorce is not just a hopeful idea, it is a roadmap. When the storm of separation hits, kids feel the waves first. A clear family vision helps them feel safe and guided. It tells them, “We may have two homes now, but we are still one family.” In this post, Kerry and […]
Keep Kids Talking During Divorce
When Your Kids Stop Talking Kerry: As parents, we get pop quizzes all the time. The ones we never see coming. I’ll never forget one of mine. I came home late after a long day of therapy clients and teaching a parenting class. My sixteen-year-old son, Palmer, greeted me by saying, “Mom, I got pulled […]
Parental Alienation During Divorce: How We Protect Kids From Being Caught in the Middle
Why we need to talk about parental alienation Palmer: Parental alienation during divorce is close to my heart. It is one of the most damaging, yet often overlooked, dynamics that can unfold after a separation. According to the APA Dictionary of Psychology, parental alienation describes a child’s experience of being manipulated by one parent to […]
Kids Living in Two Homes After Divorce: How to Help Children Feel Secure and Loved
When Life Is Split Between Two Homes Palmer: When I think about kids living in two homes after divorce, I remember one teen who said it felt “like living between two hotel rooms with only a suitcase. That hit home for me. When I was younger, I remember constantly feeling like I was in transition. […]
Kids’ Feelings During Divorce: Seeing Beneath the Surface and Helping Them Heal
Understanding kids’ feelings during divorce can help parents see beneath the surface and respond with empathy. The “Iceberg” of Kids’ Emotions Kerry: When I think about what kids go through during divorce, I often picture an iceberg. What we see above the surface, such as tears, anger, or withdrawal, is only the tip. Beneath that […]
What Makes Kids Want to Stay Close, Even After They Grow Up
Every parent hopes for that kind of lifelong connection. Kerry here! 👋 My dad is one of my favorite people. He has always been there—curious about my life, never judgmental about my choices. To this day, when I have time for a phone call, I am calling my dear old dad. As a therapist, I […]
Turn Down the Alarm Parenting: Seeing Your Kids Through a New Lens
Palmer here!! My neighbors are all much older than I am, and when we moved in they added us to their group chat where they plan all kinds of get-togethers. Most of their kids are older than my wife and me, but many of these neighbors have become our friends. This past Wednesday, I was out in […]
Don’t Miss Out on Living Your Best Life
Palmer shares a heartfelt reflection on fatherhood and the importance of staying intentional in life’s everyday moments, even when comfort and convenience tempt us away.
Frogs, Fireworks, and Finding Out
Kerry reflects on how kids learn from their mistakes and how parents can respond with empathy instead of control. Sometimes, the best lessons come when we let our kids “find out” for themselves.
What rhythms are shaping your family?
Palmer here! 👋 Family routines shape more than just our schedules. They quietly define our connection, communication, and calm. As we all know, the school year is here, and summer is coming to an end. I don’t know about you, but summer feels like the wild west for kids. One week they’re at a sports camp, up at […]
